Remember back when you first met your wife? Depending on how long the two of you have been married, it may be a struggle to recall all the details of that momentous day. It doesn’t take much effort to remember how you felt though. There was that unmistakable rush of emotional adrenaline that poured over you as you realized that you’d met a remarkable woman who would play a monumental role in your life. Time and circumstance have probably altered the connection you two share. With the introduction of bills, mortgages, work schedules and newborns into the relationship the bond between a man and a woman shifts, changes and bends to accommodate all that life has to offer. Unfortunately, sometimes the distance that develops between a couple strains their connection to the point where they no longer feel like romantic partners. When a man realizes that his wife sees him as more of a roommate or best friend than life mate, it can be very disheartening. It’s not necessarily the beginning of the end of the marriage though. If you’re determined and armed with the right knowledge and insight, you can make your wife fall for you all over again.
Rediscover Who She is Now
The woman you married and the woman you’re sharing your life with now are obviously one in the same. There are moments when it may feel that’s not the case at all. When you met and married your wife her life was in a much different place than it is now. She likely had less responsibility and less stress to deal with. You may have been her major focus back then and as her life has transformed, that focus shifted.
It’s important that you take some time to get to know the woman your wife is today. Spend time each and every day talking to her about her life. Engage her in conversations that deal with subjects that are important to her whether that’s talking about a project she’s working on at her office, or something that is going on with the children. Show your wife, through your actions, that you care about who she is and the things that matter to her. Get more involved in her life by offering an ear for her to bend if she needs someone to bounce ideas off of or just a compassionate friend to listen. By showing more interest in the woman she is, you’ll be showing more interest in her as your life partner. That will inevitably help her to feel closer to you emotionally again.
Give Her the Emotional Support She Needs
Men and women vary immensely in many areas and that’s especially true when it comes to emotions. If a woman doesn’t feel that she has her husband’s complete emotional support that can lead to her feeling disconnected from him. Although you may not be overly comfortable with the idea of talking about your emotions and how they relate to your marriage, this may be a crucial element for your wife to have in order to feel satisfied with the connection you two share.
Speak to your wife openly about what she’s feeling. Invite her to share what’s bothering her about the marriage and what you can do to improve within your role as her husband. You have to enter into a conversation like this with your defenses down and an open mind. Inevitably, during the course of a discussion like this your wife is going to point out things about you that may feel very unflattering.
You can weather the emotional storm of this much better if you view it as a lesson in how to improve your marriage. Take your wife’s criticisms to heart and then discuss with her in a very straightforward and simple way what you can do to improve the man and partner that you are. If your wife senses and believes that you’re genuine in your commitment to change for the better, she’ll reinvest herself in the marriage.
Shower Your Wife With Your Devotion
Some women feel less connected to their husbands because they feel taken for granted. This happens even in marriages where the man feels he’s deeply devoted to his wife. In his quest to provide the best possible life for her and their children, he loses sight of the fact that he’s not showing her how much she means to him on a daily basis.
Tell your wife that you love her each and every day. Take on small tasks that demonstrate that fact. A good start is to do some of the chores that she would normally do herself. If she comes home from a long day at work to discover you’ve cooked her dinner, that’s going to be touching to her. The same is true if you clean the house or do some of the laundry occasionally. This shows your wife that you’re thinking of her and you want to lighten her burden.
You may think that bringing home a bouquet of flowers to your wife is silly or cheesy, but it’s not at all. A simple gesture like that can mean the world to a woman who feels her husband doesn’t appreciate the partner that she is. Sending her a text message during the day telling her how excited you are to see her can also spark her feelings all over again.
Start showing your wife, beginning now, how much she really does mean to you. Once she understands the depth of your love and devotion, she won’t be able to help her own feelings from shining through. Sometimes all a wife needs is a reminder of how much her husband truly adores her. A reminder like this can help her recognize not only why she married her husband initially, but can make her fall deeply in love all over again.