There’s no one we’re closer to in our lives than our spouse. They’re the person we share all of our joys and frustrations with. If something wonderful happens your wife is generally the first person you call to share the great news with. If you’re feeling down, you’re going to turn to her for comfort and emotional support. That’s what your marriage should be in a perfect world but we all know that none of us truly lives in a world that is ideal. Marriages shift over time and that closeness that you once treasured with your wife may now be replaced with distance and resentment. You feel like your wife hates you and it wears on you constantly. If this sounds like the marriage you’re currently living in and you want things to improve, you’re just the man to make it happen. You can take certain steps in order to make a positive change in your relationship with the woman you adore.
Not facing the issues that are coming between the two of you won’t make them magically disappear into thin air. No one likes confrontation and many men shy away from any discussion about what is the root problem in their marriage because they’re concerned that talking about it will lead to a heated argument. You’re not going to solve anything by wishing it away. Talk to your wife and be open to her criticisms. It’s very rare for a wife to selfishly say hurtful things to her husband just because she wants to cause him emotional pain. If she’s pulled away from you emotionally, there’s a reason for it and she may very well be struggling with her feelings just as much as you are. Sometimes, just bringing up the subject of your marriage and your concerns over it will be enough to open the floodgates for her. Be prepared to hear some difficult things from your wife but see it as an opportunity to learn more about what you can do to improve your marriage.
What you’re absorbing as hatred from your wife may very well be resentment. These two emotions overlap one another and if your wife is resenting you over something you did or didn’t do, that can easily come across as disenchantment with you and the marriage in general. Consider whether you two had a difficult conflict recently and whether or not it was ever resolved. If it wasn’t, your wife may still be carrying around an emotional grudge. You have to clear the air if you want to reawaken feelings of love and compassion within her. Focus on what the problem was and what you can do as her partner to smooth things over. Compromise is going to be the key here and it may very well be your role to do the bulk of the compromising in this instance.
Neglecting your wife’s emotional and physical needs can contribute to her feeling distance from you. She may pull back and change her attitude towards you if she feels as though you’re not treating her in the way she expects and needs to be treated. If you have indeed been pushing her aside in favour of work or the kids, that needs to change as soon as possible. A marriage is a relationship that still needs to be nurtured and cared for even after a couple has been together many years. Your wife needs to be your sole focus at times and that may mean rearranging your schedule or arranging for childcare. Put in the effort to make her feel valued, appreciated and treasured. If you arrange for evenings alone for the two of you, you’ll be able to reconnect with her on a one-on-one basis again. This can bring her closer to you emotionally and wipe away any feelings of hatred or resentment that she may have been experiencing.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.