The end of a marriage is rarely an easy thing. The day you and your wife decide to separate will likely be one of the most emotionally charged days of your life. Not only do you have to deal with your guttural reaction to the fact that your marriage has fallen apart, but you also have to absorb everyone’s reaction when you say to them, “my wife and I are splitting up.” It’s never easy to admit defeat and it’s even more challenging when that defeat means the end of a relationship you cherished and thought would last forever. If you’re not ready to give up on your marriage, don’t. You can reclaim the love and adoration of your wife and secure a future with her just by understanding how to appeal to her heart so she wants to save the marriage just as much as you do.
Whenever a man says, “my wife and I are splitting up,” he’s going to be overwhelmed with a whole host of different emotions. The end of a marriage is never an easy thing to accept. A man in this situation almost always tends to be on the cusp of falling apart emotionally. This is particularly true if he still deeply loves his wife and wants the marriage to succeed. All of those emotions will often play havoc with how a man behaves and can easily drive him into doing things he’ll soon regret. That’s why it’s incredibly important for any man facing this to take a step back and find his bearings.
Trying to deal with your wife when you’re overly emotional will only make matters worse. If she’s intent on ending the marriage and you’re pushing for another chance and using tears and begging as a means to that end, you’re going to alienate her even further. She’ll quickly feel uncomfortable and will pull back and may even want to separate sooner. That’s why it’s so critical for you to keep some level of control over how you present yourself when you’re in your wife’s presence. By showing her that you’re emotionally mature, you’ll be demonstrating that you’re capable of dealing with the situation without breaking down.
Talk to your wife about the marriage and be as honest and open as you can possibly be. Allow her to vent and to share what she feels is lacking within the relationship. Obviously it’s going to be hard to listen to her criticisms of you, but it’s essential to be open and to not react in a negative way. You want her to feel comfortable sharing what she feels with you if you envision the marriage working.
Also, you must start treating your wife as the treasure that she is to you. Stop taking her for granted if you have been. Tell her each day how much you value her as your wife and the mother of your children. Offer to help her in any way you can whether that’s taking on more household chores or being a supportive shoulder for her to lean on. Don’t waver from your commitment to her and to making your marriage work. If she sees that you’re serious about having a happy and fulfilling relationship, she’ll be more than willing to work hand-in-hand with you to make that your mutual reality.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.