There is one person that we always look to for validation. Our spouse is the individual whose opinion and acceptance mean the most to us. After all, if you feel that your wife isn’t your safe spot in the world, that’s a real problem that is going to impact your marriage in major ways. When a man has reached a point in his relationship where he finds himself frequently thinking or saying, “my wife doesn’t appreciate me,” he needs to address it as soon as possible. Ignoring this type of issue will only lead to bitter resentment and sadly the end of the marriage may soon be in sight. Your relationship with your spouse doesn’t have to fall victim to this. You can change your wife’s attitude and get her to see the true value you bring to the marriage by taking a few important steps.
Whenever a man is saying, “my wife doesn’t appreciate me,” there’s a level of disappointment and resentment that accompanies it. To feel that the person you love more than anything is taking you for granted is devastating. It often leads to a shift in the entire dynamic of the marriage. If you don’t address it with your wife your connection will continue to deteriorate to the point that you don’t feel close to one another anymore. You must begin the process of changing this by talking to your wife about what you’re feeling. It’s important that you do it in a way that isn’t accusatory. You don’t want your wife to feel that you’re pointing the finger of blame for your marital problems solely at her. Instead, approach the subject from a place of compassion. Tell her that you’ve noticed the relationship has changed and you’d like to do your part to help improve it.
You also must recognize that sometimes a woman will treat her husband the same way she feels he’s treating her. For example, if your wife feels that you don’t appreciate her, she may just stop appreciating you to get back at you. It’s hard to see our own faults and you may not even realize that your wife feels this way. Think about how often you’ve been showing your gratitude to her for everything she does for you. If it’s not as often as she feels is appropriate she may just start acting in a way that feels hurtful to you. Try changing your own level of appreciation for her and watch how quickly she follows suit.
It’s also advisable to try and shift your mindset back to the days when you and your wife were dating. Back then you both treated each other with a great deal of love and respect. That can easily change when life take its toll on a couple. Date your wife again and bring her some flowers from time-to-time. Any small gesture like this can make the world of difference in her feelings toward you. She’ll definitely understand how much you still value her and love her if you do this and that in turn will help her feel the same way about you.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.