“My wife doesn’t communicate with me and I don’t know what to do.” Any man saying this is doing so with some concern about the state of his marriage. When your wife stops talking to you it’s an obvious problem that you just can’t ignore. Something isn’t working for her and unless you address it you can expect your marriage to become increasingly more strained. We all know that communication is the cornerstone for any successful relationship but how do you keep it moving forward? Once you’ve been married for a time is it inevitable that you and your spouse will just drift apart? It doesn’t need to be that way at all. With the right determined approach and understanding you can get your wife to talk to you and share more than she ever has before. Imagine what a joy it will be to have a marriage that is built on respectful and mature communication.
In order to get your wife to communicate more you need to figure out why she’s stopped in the first place. This will often require a hefty dose of self reflection on the part of the husband. Sadly, a very common scenario in many marriages is the wife just doesn’t feel that her voice or opinion is valued so she gives up. She simply stops sharing what she feels because she knows that it won’t be heard or appreciated. You can typically tell if this is what is holding your wife back from expressing herself if she’s commented in the past about how you never listen to her.
Another reason why she may have stopped communicating with you is because she’s holding an emotional grudge. Every marriage has to face conflict from time-to-time. If those conflicts aren’t resolved in a manner in which both partners feel validated and understood, it can lead to deep resentment. If the last time your wife openly shared her feelings with you was during an argument, this is likely at the root of your marriage problems now.
Getting your wife to open up again involves moving her past the thing that is holding her back. If it was a conflict, apologize to her. It’s never too late to tell her you’re sorry and just the gesture itself can have huge consequences on your marriage. You should also ensure that she understands that it’s vitally important to you that she share and that you’re ready, willing and able to listen to her.
Just telling your wife that you want communication within your marriage to be better won’t make it a reality. You must lead the way towards showing her that. Begin by getting her to talk more about the trivial things in life. If she sees that you’re attentive and interested in her stories about shopping and where she took the kids, she’ll feel more secure in sharing more and more. It’s a process that takes time and effort but it’s well worth it to get her to feel safe in communicating with you about everything.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.