My wife hates me! It hurts to hear yourself saying that, doesn’t it? Could you ever have imagined on your wedding day that you’d be in the place you are now? You sense that your wife is drifting farther and farther away from you and it breaks your heart. She’s made it clear, through her actions, that she’s certainly not in love with you anymore and you often question whether she even likes you. It’s easy to fall into a state of frozen desperation when this happens. If you do that, and just let the problem slide, you can expect to find yourself in the middle of a divorce at some point in the future. This is your marriage. Don’t you think it’s time you took control of it and got your wife back in love with you? Sure it seems hopeless right now but it’s not. The woman can be crazy about you again if you know how to play your cards right.
Before you do anything else you need to gain a clearer perspective of what’s going on. Even though you may feel that your wife hates you, she is likely just dissatisfied with the state of your marriage. Often when a woman feels that way it manifests itself in anger or disappointment that is directed towards her spouse. You absorb it as her hating you and thus begins the process of you two drifting farther and farther apart.
Talk to your wife about exactly what is going on with her. Encourage her to honestly explain to you what is causing her to feel so unhappy. Be prepared to hear some critical things about yourself during this conversation. It’s natural and normal for a spouse to blame their partner when they feel the marriage is falling apart. Your wife may decide that she wants to get everything off her chest and that will include pointing out all the areas where she feels you’ve failed her.
As difficult as a conversation like this is, it’s almost monumentally important in terms of healing the marriage. Not only does it allow your wife to voice her concerns but it allows her the opportunity to see that you’re willing and wanting to listen to her. That is often the number one complaint that unhappily married women have. They reach a point where they feel their husband just isn’t listening to them anymore. If your wife sees that you not only listen but want to help her move past her negative feelings towards more beneficial, positive ones, she’s going to already feel a shift in her attitude.
You’ve also got to put more consistent effort into fulfilling your wife’s emotional needs. Men and women view marriage a bit differently and even though you may be more than content just spending an evening at home watching television, your wife may crave more. She wants to feel valued and appreciated by you and you can easily help her to feel that by catering to her as a woman. Ask her out for dinner sometimes or bring home a bright and beautiful bouquet of her favorite flowers. Write her a love note or draw a warm bubble bath that she can spend some time relaxing in.
Putting in some effort like this will have huge payback when it comes to making your wife feel you cherish her. You’ll start to notice a softening of her demeanor as she begins to appreciate the energy and thought you are putting into making her feel special again.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.