There are few challenges we’ll face in life that are more difficult than a failing marriage. It’s even more heart wrenching if you are still very much in love with your wife. Feeling her slipping away from you is very difficult and hearing her say that her feelings have changed can destroy your entire world. You’re not sure what to do but you are certain that a divorce isn’t what you want. If you’re a man who is often saying to himself, “my wife says she doesn’t love me anymore,” there’s hope for you. Even though, right now it feels as though, you are going to lose your wife for good, that’s not necessarily true. If you’re determined to make your marriage work you have to make saving the relationship your number one priority for the foreseeable future.
If your wife has confessed to you that her feelings have indeed changed don’t discount that. It’s very rare for a woman to say something that is absorbed as so painful if she’s not really feeling that way. It’s important to note that she may feel disconnected emotionally from you and that’s being interpreted within her heart as falling out of love. This can stem from an argument you two may have recently had or perhaps she just feels as though you aren’t as in love with her as you once were. If you two haven’t taken the time to work on your marriage and maintaining the closeness over the years that can certainly have a detrimental impact on your wife’s feelings.
You must begin the process of reconnecting by acknowledging that she’s unhappy and not feeling fulfilled. Tell her that although it saddens you to know that she’s no longer in love with you, it doesn’t change your feelings for her at all. Ask her if there’s anything you can do for her that will help her to feel closer to you again. You want to ensure that she understands completely that you are committed to improving the marriage and will do whatever is needed to make certain that happens.
Your wife may be feeling so overwhelmed with confusion that she’ll ask for some time apart. This may feel like a step in the wrong direction if you’re working on getting her to love you again but it can actually help. By respecting what your wife needs from you, you’ll be showing her that you are indeed willing to put her needs before your own. That will mean a great deal to her during this difficult time.
Continue to encourage her to talk with you about what she’s feeling and keep your defence mechanisms in check. You don’t want to jump on her for sharing what she truly feels even if it comes across as hurtful to you. Keep telling your wife how much you love and need her and work every day towards the goal of becoming a more caring, kind and compassionate husband to her.
The improvements you are making in being a better partner will help her see that giving your marriage another chance is the right thing to do for both of you. Your wife wants to feel treasured and adored by you so work hard every day to ensure that’s exactly how she feels.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.