They say that there is a lot of give and take in marriage. You already know that since you and your wife have been together for awhile now. Perhaps she spends more of her time devoted to the children while you’re out chasing the career that you know will give your family the security they deserve. It takes both partners to make a marriage work and keep a family running smoothly. If one partner feels they aren’t being appreciated for their efforts, it can certainly rock the boat of happiness and contentment. If you’re a man who often complains, “my wife takes me for granted,” you need to take some action to change things. You’re not going to feel more valued unless you change the situation and do it the right way.
If you feel your wife takes you for granted you absolutely need to express this to your wife. The problem is that simply stating to her, “you take me for granted,” won’t go over very well. If your wife feels pressured and over worked as it is, you adding to that burden will only result in her resenting you and getting frustrated with you. You have to pick a certain time to share what you feel and you must do it in a way that doesn’t make her feel emotionally attacked. A good idea is to invite your wife out for a nice dinner. Take the necessary steps to arrange child care and choose a restaurant that you know your spouse is especially fond of.
Talk to her about what you’re feeling but do so in a compassionate way. Explain that you feel that the two of you aren’t as emotionally connected as you used to be and that concerns you. Ask her if there’s anything you can be doing to make her feel more appreciated and valued. Don’t be surprised if she says there is. In many marriages the things that one person feels is a direct reflection of what their spouse is experiencing as well. Your wife may also feel that you neglect her and don’t value her contributions to the family and to your marriage. Once she’s shared what she feels, do the same in return and do so in a kind and helpful way.
By doing more for your wife you may come to see that she suddenly recognizes everything that you do. If you’ve constantly taken on the same chores or tasks, it’s easy to lose the recognition for those. Your wife may have come to expect that you’ll do those things over time and as a result she won’t think to thank you or express her gratitude. However, if you go the extra step by doing something more she may suddenly see everything you do for her. At the very least you’ll be showing her that you truly do want to make the marriage the best it can be.
If all else fails, start showering your wife with words of appreciation for everything she does for you. By showing your appreciation for her more, she’ll learn by example. This may seem like a lot of trouble to get the recognition you feel deserve but consider the bonus that comes with it. Not only will you begin to feel that your wife loves and values you, she’ll feel that you truly cherish her as well.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.