“My wife wants a divorce and I’m worried!” Of course you are. Your wife is essentially telling you that she’s done putting in the necessary energy and time that is required to make your marriage a success. Instead of putting your marriage before everything else, she’s decided to throw in the towel and move on. You probably can’t believe it. How could you go from being a happily married couple to watching your relationship slowly fall apart into a million pieces? Getting lost in the confusion of this is too easy. Once that happens you may feel so paralyzed by emotional fear that you do nothing. That will only result in your wife pulling herself farther and farther away from you until she’s filed for divorce. You must be proactive about this. You have to do whatever it takes to save your marriage and regain your wife’s love and affection. Sounds like a big order, doesn’t it? As impossible as it feels right now you can completely turn around your marriage so your wife loves and adores you as much as she did the day she walked down the aisle and pledged her life to you.
Obviously if your wife wants a divorce she’s reached a point where she feels that living apart from you is going to offer her more than living with you. This is a bitter emotional pill for any man to swallow. Essentially it’s one of the worst types of rejection. What could be more painful than learning that the woman you love has decided you’re not worth the emotional investment it takes anymore? You must learn quickly how to control your emotions if this is happening to you. You’re likely to feel overcome with not only disappointment and sadness but also anger as well. Lashing out at your wife may feel natural, but it’s not helpful in any way. If you can control what you’re feeling and interact with her in a calm and mature way, you’ll fare much better.
Talk to your wife. This seems incredibly obvious but many men shy away from addressing the real issues that are pulling their marriage apart. Hearing the person you adore say critical things about you is never easy. You must listen and learn from her though. Allowing your wife the chance to speak her mind and share her feelings can quickly change the dynamic of your marriage. If she starts to feel valued and heard as a woman and as a partner, she’s not going to be as quick to want to throw in the towel and wash her hands of the marriage.
You need to be prepared to change for your wife if she’s on the cusp of ending your marriage. Marriages are all about understanding and compromise. If you’ve changed since the day you two shared your wedding vows, it may be part of the problem that you are facing now. If your wife has suggestions about things you can positively change to improve yourself and the marriage, listen and then implement those changes. Your marriage is at stake so it’s important that you do whatever is necessary to get your wife to feel close to you again and for her to find confidence in your connection with one another.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.