You and your wife have had your fair share of good times and bad times during the course of your marriage. You adore the woman and you’re forever grateful that she’s the person you get to spend your life with. The problem is that she isn’t always that willing to share what she feels with you and that has you questioning her devotion to you and to the marriage. If you often find yourself thinking or saying, “she never tells me she loves me,” that’s a problem that you just can’t continue to ignore. Although it may just be an oversight on the part of your wife, her distance may be a sign that things just aren’t as fulfilling for her within the marriage as they are for you.
When a man finds himself complaining, “she never tells me she loves me,” he’s putting the blame for the problem on his wife. He believes that she’s not sharing her feelings because she’s gotten lazy about expressing them or she’s holding back as a way to punish him for a past argument or problem. That’s likely not the case at all. In fact, your wife may not tell you she loves you because she’s just not feeling as emotionally connected to you as she once did. Many things can work together to change a woman’s feelings and cause the relationship dynamic to shift.
Ignoring the problem isn’t going to suddenly make it better. It’s important to talk with your wife about what you are feeling in relation to her not sharing her feelings. You don’t want to put her on the spot when you do this. Instead, just casually say that you’d like to talk about the relationship and do it when you both have the time and are feeling calm. Don’t point the finger of blame at her for not expressing herself. Just ask her if there’s anything you could be doing differently that would make her more open to you. Often, this is all a wife needs because it helps her feel validated and important in her husband’s eyes again.
It’s also important for you to spend some time nurturing the marriage yourself. That means you need to put in extra effort to ensure your wife feels valued and loved. Obviously this includes doing sweet things like taking her out for dinner from time-to-time and buying her a bouquet of flowers just because. In addition, do everyday things that will help make her life easier. If you do the dinner dishes once in a while or you take the children to the park to play so your wife can have a couple of hours to herself that will show her that you care deeply for her. Small gestures like that can go a long way towards mending your marriage and getting your wife reconnected with you.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.