You want to understand your spouse more. You and your wife don’t have the same relationship you used to. Obviously, time and circumstance have changed things between you two. You were once best friends and devoted lovers. Now the two of you seem to only talk about the children and what bill needs to be paid today. The romance isn’t what it used to be and you’ve become increasingly concerned that unless you do something to change the dynamic between the two of you, your marriage will eventually just wither and die. If you don’t want that to happen there is a way to change things beginning this minute. Understanding your wife’s needs can help you become the husband of her dreams all over again.
The first step towards understanding your wife’s needs better is to listen to her more intently. It’s very easy to become accustomed to tuning out your spouse when you two have been together for a time. This is especially true if the two of you tend to deal with a good amount of conflict. You may just nod in agreement when your wife is talking or perhaps you occasionally get more involved in a conversation with her. That needs to change dramatically beginning now. You have to listen to her and engage yourself in discussions with her. Unless you start listening to what your wife is commenting on or sharing, you’ll never know exactly what she needs in her life or what she needs from you.
Pay closer attention to what your wife does in a typical day. In most marriages, the woman instinctively takes on the role of being the primary caregiver to the children. This may be in addition to everything else she has going on in her life including work and tending to household chores. In order to understand your wife’s needs better you have to see what she juggles and if there are ways you can help lighten her load. Many women are too proud or too stubborn to ask anyone, including their husband, for help. By stepping up to the plate and taking over some of the tasks she normally handles herself, you are showing her that you can anticipate and fulfill her needs.
A simple kiss or reaching for her hand may actually help your wife to feel that you understand what she wants and needs more. Just because you two have settled into married life, don’t mistakenly believe that it means that the romance has to be pushed aside. Small gestures of affection can make all the difference in the world to your wife. Show her that you still love and desire her and you’ll be helping her to feel as though you recognize her needs in terms of your marriage and the connection you two share.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is drifting away from you. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.