Looking back in hindsight now, don’t you wish that someone would have given you an instructional manual on your wedding day? It would have been great to have some insight into how to keep your wife happy and your marriage fulfilling and balanced. No one was offering that up though, were they? Instead, you’re like every other man in the world who jumps into marriage with trust and hope. Unfortunately, those things can’t solve all the issues that come up over time. Right now you’re facing a major problem in your relationship with your spouse. You can tell that your wife’s feelings have changed dramatically. You find yourself asking the question, “Will my wife ever love me again?” If you want the answer to be “yes” it’s up to you to ensure that happens.
Pulling your wife closer again starts with recognizing your own faults. You may feel inclined to solely blame your wife for her change in feelings, but marriages are built on mutual admiration and adoration for one another. If the dynamic between you and your wife was still the same today as it was on your wedding day, she’d still be desperately in love with you. She’s not so something changed along the way. Women are incredibly sensitive and if you’ve done or said something that has caused her to pull back that can actually destroy the foundation of your relationship over time. If she feels you’ve wronged her and you’ve taken no steps to remedy that, you’ve got some major repair work on your hands.
Begin the process of rebuilding your marriage by apologizing to your wife. Resentment is a poison within a marriage and if you haven’t been respectful enough to tell your wife you’re sorry when it’s warranted, that’s an issue. She wants and needs to know that you accept responsibility for the things you do that cause her pain and frustration. If you throw out an insult during a heated argument and you never make amends for that, your wife will hold onto that forever. It will build up within her over time and eventually will cause her to withdraw emotionally from the relationship.
You also must open your heart and mind to listen more to your wife. If a woman doesn’t feel as though she’s being heard by her husband, she’ll start to create an emotional void between them. She’ll begin to see herself as undervalued and unappreciated within the marriage. This may be exactly what is occurring in your marriage now. If you believe it is, talk to your wife more. Don’t expect her to reveal her innermost thoughts and desires during your first conversation. Build up her trust in you again by asking about her job, her hobbies and what is going on generally in her life. Once she sees that you truly are engaged in what she has to share, she’ll start to talk more and more about her feelings and what she needs from you and the marriage.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.