Virtually every person would gladly steal a glimpse into the future on their wedding day if it were possible. You never quite know what life has in store for you before you take your fateful walk down the aisle and marry the woman of your dreams. Once the honeymoon phase is over and real life rears its ugly head, things can change dramatically in a very short period of time. If things between you and your wife just aren’t as satisfying and fulfilling as they once were, that changes the entire dynamic of the relationship. If your wife said she’s leaving you and the last thing you want is a separation or divorce, you need to act quickly to ensure your relationship gets back on track. If you leave this situation unattended and you ignore your wife’s feelings you can and should expect your marriage to quickly deteriorate to the point that it’s lost forever.
Since your wife said she’s leaving you how have you been acting towards her? It’s obviously very hard to retain any sense of normalcy when the person you adore most in the world has made it crystal clear that they no longer want to be with you. It’s very likely that you’ve spent the majority of your time trying to talk your wife into changing her mind and staying with you. Although this seems like the most logical approach to take when your goal is to save your marriage, it may actually cause more harm than good. Each and every time you attempt to convince her that she’s wrong because she wants to leave you’re negating her opinion and her value as a partner.
As challenging as it is, it’s worth considering the idea of a trial separation. Listen to the reasons why your wife has made the decision to leave you. In many instances the main motivating factor for a woman in this position is that she feels undervalued as a person and a partner. In her eyes she may believe that if she pushes you into a separation that you’ll finally see her true worth as a wife and you’ll begin to treat her much differently. That actually happens in many marriages and once the couple has gone through a brief period of separation, they end up back together and stronger than they’ve ever been before.
If you and your wife do indeed decide to take a break from your marriage ensure that there are clear understandings in place. Let her know that you want to continue to work on the relationship even if the two of you are far apart emotionally right now. Start treating your wife the way she desires. If you haven’t been as loving and caring as you could have been, work on improving that immediately. Take a moment each day to tell your wife how much you truly love her and how important it is for you to work on the marriage with her. If she senses that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to save the relationship she’ll be much less inclined to want time apart.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.