To a man who feels he is happily married, talking about divorce can be devastating. It’s sad that in many marriages even though one partner feels strongly that the relationship is going well, the other may be living a life of discontent and want out. Once the topic of divorce is brought up, everything changes. It means that the couple can no longer ignore that something is dramatically wrong with their relationship. If your wife wants to call it quits and she’s told you as much, you have to make a very difficult and painful decision. You either have to let her go or you need to dig your heels in and start making some positive changes to keep her. If you’re not on the same page as her when it comes to walking away from everything you two have built, you need to get serious about saving your marriage and keeping your family together.
If your wife wants to call it quits you need to address the motivation behind that. Women don’t want to leave happy marriages. She’s obviously feeling that things aren’t right for her so it’s up to you to determine what is causing her to want to throw the towel in. You have to ask her to explain what she’s feeling but you must do so in a way that shows her that you’re willing and wanting to listen. If you come at her from a negative place she’ll simply shut down and you’ll make absolutely no progress. Tell your wife that although you’re deeply respectful of what she wants you believe you have a right to know why she feels the way she does. Explain that you’re going to do your best not to get upset by what she tells you. Say that you’re ready to learn more about what she’s feeling and that it’s incredibly important to you.
Listen intently as she describes what she feels and why she’s reached the conclusion that calling it quits is the best route to take. If she explains that she’s not happy with things you’ve been doing or the manner in which you’ve been treating her, promise you’ll change and then show her through your actions that you’re doing just that. You must walk the walk when it comes to repairing your marriage and that has to start with becoming the husband and life partner that she needs you to be.
Many women bring up the subject of divorce out of frustration. If she feels that you’ve been neglecting her feelings for some time, to her, announcing that she wants to split up may be the best way to get your undivided attention. View this as a critical time in your relationship and a reason for positive change. Many marriages that go through a period of crisis like this end up stronger than ever. Your goal throughout this has to be to listen to your wife and change accordingly so that you become the partner she needs you to be for her.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make your wife love you.