In a marriage communication is everything. If you and your wife don’t have an open and effective method of communication, your marriage doesn’t stand a fighting chance. Unfortunately many couples who are able to communicate seamlessly when they first marry find themselves barely speaking as the relationship matures and life’s challenges start to present themselves. If your wife won’t talk to you it’s not prudent to ignore the issue with the hope that it will get better in time. It likely won’t. You have to take some important steps towards finding a way to get her to open back up to you so your marriage can become the enriching and fulfilling relationship it once was.
If your wife won’t talk to you it’s up to you to bridge that communication gap. It’s not a good idea to try and get her to engage you in a serious discussion right off. That likely won’t sit well with her. She’ll feel pressured and angry with you for cornering her. It’s much better if you take your time and ease her back into a regular communication routine. You can begin this process by talking about small, every day issues in the beginning. The weather is a great example or something as non-threatening as what is on television that night. Start the conversation and then ask leading, but innocent questions. Getting her talking to you in this form is an important step towards talking about the major issues that impact your relationship.
Once you two have started talking about day-to-day issues it will be time to introduce more important issues into the mix. If there are things you have been itching to talk to her about, pick one and focus solely on it. Perhaps it’s something to do with your marriage directly or it’s a situation with one of your children that you’ve wanted to address for some time. Pick an opportunity to do this but ensure that you both are un-stressed and feeling calm. Don’t monopolize the conversation but instead give her an opportunity to speak her mind and listen intently while she does. You don’t want to come across as a controlling force. If your wife feels that she’s being heard she’ll be that much more willing to share what she feels in the future.
When conflict does arise you have to be willing to handle it diplomatically. You can’t avoid these types of struggles in a marriage altogether. They are bound to pop up from time-to-time. Just talk to your wife in a way that helps her to understand that arguing is not the answer. If she becomes irate you should end the conversation immediately so you both have a chance to calm down. If you can do this each and every time conflict does arise, your conversations will become less hostile and much more helpful for you both.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.