There are certain things that you, as a married man, never want to hear yourself saying. Things like, “my wife regrets marrying me, my wife says I’m a bad parent or my wife doesn’t want me anymore.” Knowing that your wife is dissatisfied with you is a difficult thing to absorb. If you feel that the marriage is teetering on the edge of collapse because your wife’s feelings have indeed shifted dramatically, you need to change what you’re doing as a husband and what you two are doing as a couple. Ignoring this situation is sometimes viewed as the best choice simply because most marriages do indeed go through cycles. However, the fact that your wife doesn’t want you anymore isn’t going to change on its own. If you leave this unattended and continue to live your life and conduct your marriage the way you always have, you can expect your wife to pick up and leave you one day. This is clearly not a case in which ignorance is bliss. Ignorance is actually fuel to the fire that will move you two towards divorce.

First and foremost you have to swallow up your manly pride and determine what happened along the way that shifted your wife’s feelings. If she doesn’t want you anymore that’s clearly a drastic change from the day you married. Obviously, you two have changed as individuals since that day, but it’s important that you consider how you’ve changed as a partner to her. If you’ve allowed work stress to impact your marriage dynamic, that may leave your wife feeling resentful. Perhaps you two struggle with parenting ideals and she has built up an emotional wall because of that. Although every couple has issues to deal with it’s essential for you to identify what issues have caused your wife’s feelings to shift so dramatically since the beginning of the marriage.

Talk to your wife. It sounds simple enough, doesn’t it? It’s actually a bit more complicated than you think. When you want to talk about the serious meat and potatoes issues that are impacting the foundation of your marriage you have to approach it in a very specific way. You can’t strike up a conversation about how your marriage is failing when your wife is cooking dinner. It’s also not advisable to start talking about what has to change when you two are already embroiled in an argument about something that is seemingly insignificant. Pick the time and place well when you want to discuss your marriage. Ensure that your wife isn’t preoccupied with other things and that, for the most part, she feels calm and not stressed. Your attitudes going into the conversation will greatly impact how the discussion progresses.

Listen to your wife carefully. Honest conversations about the state of your marriage are bound to be painful. You have to face your shortcomings. It’s never easy to do that. Allow your wife the chance to share what she feels is lacking within your marriage and then work with her to find a compromise for change. A successful marriage is all about finding a balance that works and in your case it shouldn’t all be about you have to change to fit the criteria that your wife has set for you in terms of her idea of a perfect husband. You both need to give and take until you find a common ground that allows you to be happy and fulfilled without completely transforming who you are.

 

Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.

You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.

Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.

You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.

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