Nothing can really prepare anyone for marriage. Most of us think we have it all figured out by the time we say our vows and profess our undying love and devotion to our spouse. The problem is that real life quickly takes hold of the relationship and conflicts are bound to arise. One way that some women deal with the stress in their marriage is they withdraw from their husband. If you are being ignored by your wife you know how alone and confusing that can leave you feeling. It’s a struggle that can lead a man to say and do things he’ll soon regret. Pushing your wife to talk with you when you feel she’s being distant won’t help. You have to handle this in a very specific way so she feels so loved and cherished again that ignoring you becomes the last thing she feels inclined to do.
Obviously being ignored by your wife is going to make you feel that the marriage isn’t where it should be. You’re right. One spouse ignoring the other is a clear sign that something isn’t working for them. Unless you can identify why your wife feels the need to treat you this way, you can’t expect the relationship to improve. Talk to her about what she’s feeling. This can prove very challenging if she’s purposefully staying away from you but it’s essential that you encourage her to open up to you. Explain that you will refrain from becoming defensive during the discussion. If she feels that you’re offering her a change to express herself in a safe and accepting way, she’ll be more likely to share her feelings.
Women will sometimes start to ignore their husbands because they feel neglected. If your wife feels that you aren’t giving her the same level of attention that you once did, that can cause her to pull back. She may feel underappreciated or devalued because you don’t bring her flowers anymore, make plans to take her out for dinner or romance her the way you used to. These things matter to a woman so it’s essential that you continue to do them. It’s natural for the dynamic between a couple to change once their marriage settles into a pattern, but the romance certainly doesn’t have to die.
Work at being more of the husband she needs you to be. That may mean doing simple things like arranging child care so you can focus on cooking your wife her favorite dinner once a week. Maybe you need to write her a poem, if you’re so inclined, to express how important she is to you. Any small gesture like this can dramatically improve your relationship because it shows your wife that she is still the center of your world.
Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your wife to feel even more distant from you. You can make your wife fall back in love with you, all over again.
You don’t have to worry about whether your wife is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make her fall hopelessly in love with you.